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Need some Advice
Ive been in a relationship with my fiancee for 8 years now. I love her to death, but she can never satisfy me sexually. She absolutely refuses to give oral , and rarely even gives me a hand-job, and is hardly ever in the mood for sex. Ive tried to talk to her about it, but she gets an attitude and just gets plain mad. Should I seek someone to satisfy me on the side?
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| October 6, 2008, 19:01 |
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Jis4jugs
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Re: Need some Advice
Find out why she's being the way she is? I would advise its not worth cheating on her just because she can't sexually keep you happy. If she's OKAY with you being with someone on the side and knows about it... thats a different story, but I wouldnt do that to her. I don't care who you are. Being in for this long, Im surprised why you don't know more of her side of things?? Find out things from her side if you really cherish her... you might have to knock down a few walls to do so and she'll appreciate you for keeping at it and not giving up on her even if its for your physical part of the relationship.
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| October 6, 2008, 21:04 |
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Re: Need some Advice
Can you pinpoint her attitude about sex to anything in particular...like religious beliefs, in her upbringing?
Is oral sex something she has tried, but refuses to ever do again, or something she has never done?
Maybe tell us a little more about her...
Otherwise, she is your fiance, and from what you've said, you've followed through so far on a committed relationship with her for over 8 years now...sounds like this whole thing is worth workin' on...
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| October 6, 2008, 22:14 |
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Re: Need some Advice
she has done oral on other guys but won't do it for me. Her attitude towards sex Is mainly because she gets no feeling from it. I've tried to satisfy her but nothing works. I've been very confused lately, and getting more and more sexually frustrated . Not sure what else to do.
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| October 7, 2008, 02:23 |
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Re: Need some Advice
Well, it sounds like you're a helluva good man and have put allot of thought and effort into this.
If there is a strong imcompatability between two people who plan to marrry, a little counseling can be a huge help.
I don't know how open minded and willing your fiance is (I can tell you are) but a trip to her family doctor can get some results, he can check for hormone levels, medication side effects and interactions.
Most forms of depression can kill a sex drive, but so can the drugs to treat it.
Keep talking to us dear, maybe we can work it all out.
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| October 7, 2008, 09:20 |
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Re: Need some Advice
We are seeing a counselor, but not for sexual reasons. She doesnt feel comfortable discussing that kind of stuff in front of people. I have been trying to get her to a doctor, hopefully i can get her to go soon. You both have been very supportive, i appreciate it.
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| October 7, 2008, 20:16 |
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Re: Need some Advice
Whoa, if she can't even discuss sex...then you may have a long row to hoe here...
Webmd usually has some good articles and QandA's under their "sex and relationships" tab..
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