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Serious opinions, please
Here's the situation. My daughter is in the 8th grade. In her second year of band ( 7th grade ), she knocked the two 8th grade trombone players down to 2nd and 3rd chair, claiming 1st. She made 5th chair in All District symphonic band last year. She was asked to play in the high school marching band but couldn't because of her athletics schedule. This year, she joined up. She's good at athletics, too.... usually starting the year on the B team and ending up on the A team after a game or two. But because of her athletics schedule, she can only attend marching band practice once a week (Tuesday nights for almost 3 hours). The high school kids practice every morning at the same time she's having athletics practice.
Here's where I want opinions..... she's talking about quitting athletics next year. She's never had a problem with her grades, so that doesn't come into question..... but she'd rather devote her time to band than athletics. The band directors have told her that she's the best they've seen throughout their teaching career. Everyone tells me how much easier it would be to get a band scholarship than an athletic scholarship... I believe that to be true, and I'd like her to focus on band, but I also think that she'd miss playing sports. In the long run, focusing on band would be in her best interest, in my opinion....
What do y'all think? 
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| September 29, 2008, 09:59 |
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Jis4jugs
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Re: Serious opinions, please
I would say if she has her head set on what she wants to do, stand by her and let her do so. Even though you think she'd miss playing sports, I wouldnt think anyone would know better than her. She can always turn back to sports when she wants if she feels that she's missing out on it.
Good luck.
her
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| September 29, 2008, 10:53 |
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Re: Serious opinions, please
Definitely! I plan on letting her make her own decisions, regardless of what I think... and it looks like I agree with her... for a change!  
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| September 29, 2008, 10:57 |
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Encourage and support her, especially through the teen age years.
 xox
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| September 29, 2008, 13:25 |
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cjroxy
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By the sound of it she has made her own mind up as to what she wants to do.
If she enjoys the musical side of it more than the athletics side of it then she must go with her heart. There will be plenty of time and opportunitys for her to join other athletics groups later.
Support her decision and trust her judgement.
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| September 29, 2008, 15:51 |
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Hun, i think you should let her make this choice and support her, she can still do sports in her spare time, and she seems a very mature young lady with a good head on her shoulders, so she will make the right choice for herself. You have great daughter moon, she is a credit to you 
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| September 29, 2008, 16:25 |
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ashkats
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our son played the trombone for a few years but was having problems with bronchitis when playing it, we didn't twist his arm to quit and he decided he rather wrestle instead.
if shes good at it by all means keep going there will always be sports and so few good musicians
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| September 30, 2008, 00:03 |
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Re: Re: Serious opinions, please
QUOTE (MoonHowler @ September 29, 2008, 10:57)Definitely! I plan on letting her make her own decisions, regardless of what I think... and it looks like I agree with her... for a change!
I've always thought you were a great momma Moon. Band in Texas is a full time commitment and it will more than replace any sports time she has. Raising our children is a trial and error of judgement on our and their parts. It is also about finding their passions and helping them find strengths and weaknesses. Children in band tend to excel far above athletes in grades and discipline. While she may be incredibly talented there is really no "star athlete syndrome" to deal with in band, more teamwork is required and it will help her work well with others. If you both feel strongly then your gut instincts are at work.
Just think...some day your little critter could be playing at Daryl K. Royal Memorial Stadium. 
 
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| September 30, 2008, 08:49 |
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Thank you all for your opinions and comments...  and you're absolutely right! This is her choice to make.... I'll be proud of her no matter what she decides. 
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| September 30, 2008, 09:49 |
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I hafta agree with what everybody else has said, she's chosen her passion, I'd let her run with it and more importantly, she'll further flourish with your encouragement.
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| September 30, 2008, 11:54 |
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dave2big
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i agree completely with your daughter Moon, my own daughter stuck with the french horn (a very difficult instrument) and was told by her college band instructor if she stayed with it,she COULD become among the worlds best !!!!!!
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| September 30, 2008, 14:40 |
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It sounds as though he's a smart girl. Let her make the decision. Just talk to her about it and ask her several times to make sure she still wants the band thing.
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