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cjroxy
59 / couple
Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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Friends
If you had a friend who you found attractive, would you tell them and risk the friendship or keep quiet?
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| September 23, 2008, 16:22 |
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Re: Friends
Been through this. It has worked both ways.
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| September 23, 2008, 16:26 |
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Re: Friends
If it is a 'true friend' then there is no risk, and no need to keep quiet, no holds barred.
 xox
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| September 23, 2008, 16:30 |
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Re: Friends
Tell them 
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| September 23, 2008, 16:51 |
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Re: Friends
I make a point to tell them. If nothing else, it should make them feel good about themselves
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| September 23, 2008, 17:12 |
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69oak69
64 / male
Heart of Illinois, Illinois, US
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Re: Friends
Tell my friend that I think she is "attractive" in that I think she is a more-than-adequate human female, physically, intellectually, and morally?
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Tell my friend that I feel an attraction for her?
Those are rather different things, I would suggest. The one is more than a mere compliment, but I think would not be out of place in any friendship , if communicated and understood correctly. The second is something more, I don't know what, but it could change the rlationship, possibly in unforeseen ways. If my friend is my second cousin who I went to school with for 12 years, married my best friend and lives a quarter mile down the road from me, I'm probably going to keep any attraction I feel for her to my self, even though I believe, and would tell her, that she is "attractive".
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| September 23, 2008, 17:28 |
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Re: Friends
I guess I'm very lucky, I have friends (after someone knows me) tell me I am beautiful all the time but I think the attractive part about me isn't the way I look necessarily.
It depends of the level of your friendship and where each of you are in your life.
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| September 23, 2008, 18:30 |
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stevanos
65 / male
A place in Bendover, British Columbia, Canada
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Re: Friends
Tell them for sure. I would want them to know.
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| September 23, 2008, 18:36 |
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Re: Friends
Im with oaks, I've never seen a problem with reminding friends of their qualities, but once you tell a friend you are attracted, you are changing the dynamics of the relationship...if that's good for them, or the both of you...fine, if it complicates things, it's not worth it...time can change that though, timing could make a difference.
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| September 25, 2008, 11:01 |
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40something
57 / female
In the Sun, Arizona, US
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Re: Friends
I agree with Chazzy... how you tell someone you are attracted to them can lead to all kinds of changes if you are completely direct with a friend. You have to be careful and try not to put your friend in the awkward position of having to reject you. That could make your easy understanding friendship end.
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| September 25, 2008, 22:41 |
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KINKYINTHEFALLS
56 / male
wild and wonderful, West Virginia, US
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Re: Friends
I myself would have to say there are different levels of attraction. There are the physical type, which to me are the lowest level of attraction.
Then there are the intellectual levels which mean a bit more.
And last but not least there are the combination levels which are most important to me.
So I can in all honesty say it would depend 
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| September 26, 2008, 12:19 |
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Re: Friends
Good sense...I sure woudn't tell a married or attached friend I find him attractive...or in any way act like anything else but "just a friend"...
But hey, if both parties are single...then telling them will either end/strain a friendship , or start a romance.
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| September 26, 2008, 14:06 |
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