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Sex and self esteem..
Are the two connected for you? Does your opinion
about your self worth depend on whether you're getting laid or not? Does being sexualy satisfied
affect your moods?
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| January 18, 2005, 18:06 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
For me they are not connected, but I have always felt that I should have been in a more prestegous circle, not being from a wealthy family of 8 kids I worked all through HS, went right in the service, have been married 30yrs and yes I would be in a better (exstatic mood)If I could have sex with beautifull,intelligent sexy D&D free women ,But I dont see that happening because of my age, and marriage, so I hang out here, puts me in a better mood plus maybe I'll learn how to spell, and use the correct deffinitons of word 
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| January 18, 2005, 21:10 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
I think they do connect. If I'm not getting any(imagine that..married and not getting any...who would have thought)I feel less attractive, start to wonder what about me maybe needs some tweaking. If I get hit on while I'm out or come home and my hubby can't keep his hands off me my self esteem skyrockets. I feel incredibly attractive.
Satisfaction doesn't really play a part in it though. If I'm not satisfied but he's trying then it doesn't enter my mind that it has anything to do w/ me.
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| January 19, 2005, 12:37 |
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Re: Re: Sex and self esteem..
QUOTE (curiousgirl @ January 19, 2005, 12:37)I think they do connect. If I'm not getting any(imagine that..married and not getting any...who would have thought)I feel less attractive, start to wonder what about me maybe needs some tweaking. If I get hit on while I'm out or come home and my hubby can't keep his hands off me my self esteem skyrockets. I feel incredibly attractive.
Satisfaction doesn't really play a part in it though. If I'm not satisfied but he's trying then it doesn't enter my mind that it has anything to do w/ me.
My wife could care less about sex 99% of the time but I'm still a great lover  I love pizza, pretzels and Stoly 
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| January 19, 2005, 12:50 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
Absolutely, If I'm not in the process of having sex, I am seeking it. My entire self image is built upon sex and sexuality . My ability to please other people through sexual exploit is the only thing that prevents me from eating rat poison or leaping in front of a moving metrobus. (or perhaps a cement truck, i have not decided)
(It is not impossible that I miss Sarah and my attitude may be skewed at this time)
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| January 19, 2005, 13:46 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
Mine's somewhat like that. If I'm not feeling confident, then I don't feel sexy or want to participate in any sexual activity. That was a hard concept for one of my boyfriends to understand, but then again, he was a man whore
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| January 19, 2005, 16:44 |
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hardrock1955
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McGaheysville, Virginia, US
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
What is self-esteem? and what is sex? those words seem strangely familiar, but I just can't remember  
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| January 19, 2005, 18:42 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
I have plenty-e-steem and can go for a long time
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| January 20, 2005, 13:11 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
...Male...
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| January 20, 2005, 19:16 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
I don't usually get around to answering my own questions. Afterall, I know my opinions, it's the opinions of others I find more interesting.
Lately, my beaten self esteem seems to be gaining some strength and changed my opinion on this.
I just find that I like myself more when I feel like a productive person, that I somehow make, no matter how small, some positive impact on someone, or something, or even better yet, that someone feels that time spent with me is worthwhile even if it isn't time spent sexually, and I can make them feel the same, but then again, that's the kinda thing that really does open me up sexually to someone, and if it open them up to me sexually ....okay then, maybe the two(sex and self esteem) are related, maybe it's just the idea of not just seeing someone as sexual, but as a whole sexual being....anyway, sorry for the whole dribbling ramble.....I'm done now....
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| March 9, 2005, 08:53 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
Chazzy you have just burned up over a hundred calories, now turn off the lite and come to bed.
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armybody
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Dallas, Texas, US
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
QUOTE (Chazzy @ January 18, 2005, 18:06)Are the two connected for you? Does your opinion
about your self worth depend on whether you're getting laid or not? Does being sexualy satisfied
affect your moods?
Getting done with a workout and going to classes where I get hit on sometimes by 20 somethings has a great positive effect on me. I think that it boosts self-image for me......however, I would say that it's my self esteem that is attractive in the first place. I wouldn't see it as getting hit on if I had low self esteem.
I'm 43 but I'm in better shape than the guys that hit on them for the most part so I KNOW they notice me. I have enough experience to know that my self confidence is just plain sexy. It is difficult getting around in my mind that I'm 20 years older so the self image takes the most damage. When I get that though, it just wipes the image of an older man right away.
So, it doesn't even have to be sex.
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| March 9, 2005, 15:27 |
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
I apologize in advance for being anilytical, but have you considered the relationship between sex and LOW self esteem? Have you ever:
Had sex with someone because you thought they'd accuse you of being frigid or scared if you didn't?
Thought that having sex with someone would mean they'd like you more?
Had sex so you'd appear more popular, desirable, or cooler to your friends?
Stayed in a relationship with someone who didn't treat you right because you thought you couldn't do any better, or were scared of being alone?
And.... to answer your question, Charlene, yes, I feel better about myself when I an in a sexual relationship .
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mph615
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Lockport, Illinois, US
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
First I like Eugene's answer. Absolutely! I married my ex because I thought no way anyone would ever want me. It seemed right to me. It wasnt. Now, 3 1/2 years later I am lonely as hell, havent had sex, and don't see it happening anytime soon because i can't see why anyone would want to be with me long enough to have sex . Now, I am positive if someone jumped my ass, I would feel fucking great, and I'd be struttin my shit all over and yes....I would feel great about myself. Just the fact that someone wanted me even if it was only a moment would boost my self esteem. Then Id probably try and go out and get some, but to no avail, then my self esteem would be for shit again. Vicious cycle!
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| March 9, 2005, 21:58 |
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bawbie
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Re: Sex and self esteem..
i don't think my limited self esteem depends on sex. but it does increase my self esteem, if i feel wanted.
the last guy that asked me out was at the johnny winter concert (the rythym room, suday, may 16th, 2004). but he lived in peoria, and i'm just this side of apache junction. i'm not even real sure where peoria is at.
oh well, life goes on.
(just an aside, i told my mom i had been asked out, and she says "he must of been drunk". thanks mom)(she doesn't approve of me going into a BAR! espicially one that's upholstery consists of duct tape.)
well, i feel better now, dr. freud. 
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