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Muffinman
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is this cheating or not cheating
OK guys and gals i got a?? for all of yours out there can help
gf and i was talk the other day and it come up what is cheating and what is not
she say as long the person doest shag that person who they are with it not cheating
i mean she say if the person give oral sex or any think like that with out shag them its not cheating
i say if u give them oral sex and kissing like full on passion kiss and all
any think like that is cheating in my books
so ??? i am asking what do your think is it cheating or not cheating
so i like to hear what yours think about it
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| April 24, 2008, 02:06 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
If you do something intimate with another person behind your partners back, it's cheating. Whether its just a kiss or full blown sex.
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| April 24, 2008, 05:00 |
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Re: Re: is this cheating or not cheating
QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ April 24, 2008, 05:00)If you do something intimate with another person behind your partners back, it's cheating. Whether its just a kiss or full blown sex.
I second that HBG... 
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| April 24, 2008, 06:00 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
If it is behind the other person's back it is cheating. I have learned my lesson about that and almost ruined a wonderful marriage to a great man.  That is why I am honest with him about being on this site and he doesn't mind. He even thinks it is sort of cool.
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| April 24, 2008, 06:16 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
ok, so what if you are just chatting with some one through cyber space? is you don't actually make physical contact, is it still cheating? what if you aren't even talking dirty? i was playing an online game i came across on an adult site, i played a game of domino's with a woman. my ex-wife considered it cheating, cuz of the nature of the originating website...even though we never said or did anything sexual.
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| April 24, 2008, 07:48 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
I wouldn't say that was cheating. If you have talked sexually then, yes, that's cheating.
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| April 24, 2008, 07:50 |
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Muffinman
44 / male
rockhampton, Queensland, Australia
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
welll many of u knme for years and all well me i whould never cheat and all so yeah i am thinking of call the reathship off and not get married to her
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| April 24, 2008, 07:53 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
right. i guess that showed a lack of trust on her part. i loved her, and tried to make sure that she knew it, every day. i guess i didn't do a good enuff job...but the way i see it, it's her loss....i'm over her now.
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| April 24, 2008, 07:53 |
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funlovingpair
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Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
Ma and I are, have been and will always be totally open with each other. She knows who I talk to and what I say to them. I feel that if your having any sort of realtionship with someone, even if they are hundreds or thoundsands of miles from you, and the only purpose is for sexual gratifacation, without your partners knowledge, then it would be cheating, even though there is no physical contact. But anything more physical than a simple hug/kiss would have to be considered cheating.
Like I told Ma, the only affair I'd have, is the one that she approved of first.
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| April 24, 2008, 10:05 |
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| April 24, 2008, 13:35 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
QUOTE (Muffinman @ April 24, 2008, 02:06)OK guys and gals i got a?? for all of yours out there can help
gf and i was talk the other day and it come up what is cheating and what is not
she say as long the person doest shag that person who they are with it not cheating
i mean she say if the person give oral sex or any think like that with out shag them its not cheating
i say if u give them oral sex and kissing like full on passion kiss and all
any think like that is cheating in my books
so ??? i am asking what do your think is it cheating or not cheating
so i like to hear what yours think about it
before i put my input in, can someone help clarify this up for me? I want to make sure i'm understanding it right. 
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| April 24, 2008, 17:46 |
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| April 24, 2008, 17:49 |
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Muffinman
44 / male
rockhampton, Queensland, Australia
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
thats a thing sinces i meet her i have never chatted up a other girl i do the thing what she does with guy like role playing text sex getting guy to msg her on her phone and asking her for sex and instea dof her tell them to piss off she lead them on and let them do it and tell them she goign to hook up with them and alll
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| April 24, 2008, 22:22 |
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Re: Re: is this cheating or not cheating
QUOTE (Muffinman @ April 24, 2008, 22:22)thats a thing sinces i meet her i have never chatted up a other girl i do the thing what she does with guy like role playing text sex getting guy to msg her on her phone and asking her for sex and instea dof her tell them to piss off she lead them on and let them do it and tell them she goign to hook up with them and alll
I've seen this many a times and I totally understand what you are saying. My opinion... If she is doing this to you now, what's to say what she would or could do if you move to the next level in your lives. If she wants to live her life that way with getting thrills like that, and thrives on it... so be it, doesn't mean you need to be a part of it. It's not your fault with her insecurities Muffin. Only the two of you know your relationship, and no one else, if you can work it out between the two of you..., I'm happy for the both of you... good luck.
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| April 24, 2008, 22:35 |
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Muffinman
44 / male
rockhampton, Queensland, Australia
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
tell u the truth i dont now what i want any more what she did hurt me and i know for a fact she do it again and wont last long she say that
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| April 25, 2008, 05:23 |
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Re: Re: is this cheating or not cheating
QUOTE (Muffinman @ April 25, 2008, 05:23)tell u the truth i dont now what i want any more what she did hurt me and i know for a fact she do it again and wont last long she say that
I'm always happy to see you back here, but I'm so sorry things are not working out for you, dear.
You're a good man that wants good things out of life.
There's are allot of men out in the world, that married, had children, divorced and struggle to pay child support, deal with child custody, "ex" problems, and are still looking for the right woman.
You have a chance to make a path choice right now. You're a good man that wants a good woman to share a life of family, growth, mutual trust,respect and love...you deserve that...
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| April 25, 2008, 13:09 |
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Muffinman
44 / male
rockhampton, Queensland, Australia
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
just to let every one know as from last thursday i have told her it over i cant take it any more i need some one i can trust and know she be there for me not chatting or that up other guy onces again thank u allll very much i am single again and looking for my muffingirl
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| May 3, 2008, 20:31 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
You sound like a very nice guy Muffin. Best of luck to you and until you find that special Muffingirl I hope to continue to hear from you here.
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| May 3, 2008, 20:38 |
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Re: Re: is this cheating or not cheating
QUOTE (Muffinman @ May 3, 2008, 20:31) just to let every one know as from last thursday i have told her it over i cant take it any more i need some one i can trust and know she be there for me not chatting or that up other guy onces again thank u allll very much i am single again and looking for my muffingirl
Hi Muffin... chilling back, taking it easy is the best thing for now, trust me, I know. Give yourself time to heal, enjoy your life, and take it from there. Like I've heard... you don't know what you have til it's gone! You never know (about the relationship you were in), maybe she'll realize what she had... no one has the answers, and maybe she'll change her tune and stop being a player. It's always when you're not looking is when life takes a good turn. Good luck Sweetie!
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| May 3, 2008, 20:50 |
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Re: Re: is this cheating or not cheating
QUOTE (Muffinman @ May 3, 2008, 20:31) just to let every one know as from last thursday i have told her it over i cant take it any more i need some one i can trust and know she be there for me not chatting or that up other guy onces again thank u allll very much i am single again and looking for my muffingirl
As always...stay in touch, I like talking to you!
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| May 3, 2008, 23:37 |
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
cheating is ANY kind of intimacy with another person, other than your partner, and with out that same partner knowing. whether it be emotional or physical.
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| May 3, 2008, 23:37 |
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Muffinman
44 / male
rockhampton, Queensland, Australia
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Re: is this cheating or not cheating
yeah i learn i am going to have some fun till i am ready to sattle down again and injoy life and shag any thik i can get my hand on lol
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