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Internet or Bars???
As a current member of the W N family, and having been on a few other sites as well over the course of time i have discovered a few things here that i will share with my friends and every one else!!
Its pretty simple to see that this internet thing is harder than going to a bar especially for the men here lol!! The ratio of men versus women in a bar is likely to be 3:1 Depending on the kind of place you haunt!! lol Maybe more maybe less! The ratio of men to women on the internet is likely to be 12:1 at any given time and some times a lot more!! Going to a bar depending on the location gives you the opportunity to address a person one on one. Of course its all the same as far as the chemistry and how you are perceived at that time. You have this persons undivided attention for however long you or they decide to play, some times it pays off and sometimes it don't. But the point being you are face to face and can make the moves then and there for both parties.
But we all know the the risks involved with drinking and worrying about the law, and the possibility of a dwi and or a accident that could hurt you or others.
The internet on the other hand does open up a world to you, new worlds for some and and just a few doors for others. The dating scene here is a far cry from the one on one you get in person, some of my women friends receive no less than 20 emails a day. Thats a lot of new people to meet and converse with , more than at any pub, you take your time and sort thru any emails and decide who you might find physically interesting and dump the rest! Yes speaking of you gals here!! lol
Depending on how creative a person can be is the next line of defense that makes or breaks the chance that an email remains in your in box! For example, the Dumb ass that goes (Hey babe, nice tits ), or (lets fuck) and that is the jist of one whole complete sentence , well he deserves to get deleted. And yes there are a few of you guys that just don't get it!! For some who can break the ice with a simple Hello and any other one liners , there are very few original lines left though, we might still have a chance!!
You women need to at least give a guy his dues here and look just a tad bit deeper than the cover of the book!
But then we get down to the brass tacks here, and this is where it gets tricky guys, you might only be the last of about 3 emails left in pile and your chance of getting a reply are so so at this stage!! But bear in mind that we all have different moods on different days, female and male alike, you might not get that response that day. It might be a couple of days and then other mails have appeared as well, so your chances have dwindled again! But with that in mind you haven't been deleted yet!! How you respond is to her next email is key too.
But now here you are 3 days into a hopeful relation ship and and only getting to address this person for the 2nd time, and unlike the bar you can't send over a drink to break the ice lol Its a little tough, but with some perseverance and time you might just get to the point where you want to be and meeting up with this person for the first time , but then again here we go with the chemistry thing and a few other variables that come into play. Like did all parties tell the truth about themselves, is this the same person you seen in the picture!! Goes both ways here now!! Is this person the size or dimension they told you in all these emails? And we are all doing the same thing we would have done at a bar, looking,sizing each other up, and making a decision from that point as to what happens next!! But now it's been done twice!! And then go have a drink to break the ice!! So Do You See The Irony Here???
So You Tell me, Bars or Internet LOL!!
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| April 19, 2008, 15:41 |
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I do agree with the ratios of men to women, internet and in a bar, and with the sometimes overwhelming amount of messages women get, and how clueless men can be online and in person
I also think that allot of women may be sending wrong or mixed siganls with there ads and photos. Allot of women have very sexy or even trashy nicknames, graphic photos and ads talking about how they want big dicks and all that and feel somewhat disrespected by their mail...some women have the graphic profiles and want that kind of mail, some women have very mild ads, and nothing in their profile apparently ever gets read by the mail they get...mine says I do NOT use or have any instant messenger programs such as Yahoo...but my mail box is full everyday of "Here's my yahoo ID, let's chat"
I've toned down my profiles many times over the years, I figured out pretty quick I was getting the wrong kind of attention...but...all of us women do need to always keep in mind, we are on an adult sex and personals site, and there are always gonna be allot of horny clueless men.
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| April 19, 2008, 18:18 |
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Re: Internet or Bars???
You know good1, that is a catch22 loaded question. Personally, I would enjoy getting to know them via the Internet, taking the TIME finding out about them: their personality, likes/dislikes, their views/perceptions of life, see if there is a compatibility whether as friends or beyond, and IF it's meant to be, then the next step would to have a meet with them, to see how they function in reality, observing their lifestyle, their non-verbals, how they interact, and if there is a physical/mental connection with each other, as they enjoy a day or weekend together in a platonic way, then take it from there. Taking it slow is the only way to go. 
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| April 19, 2008, 23:22 |
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There's plenty of room here for all, there are people that come here for selective and discreet hooking up (online or offling), some that just wanna find a certain type and find them fast, and those looking for something a little deeper and more meaningful...
Whatever anyone is looking for, it can take a little time to sift through profiles and find your like minded matches.
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| April 20, 2008, 04:44 |
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I think that many prefer the internet to bars for the simple reason that many don't care for bars. I know I don't. If you go to a bar expecting to meet someone, you have the driving, drinks, drinks and more drinks. It's not a very "instant" thing like many people pretend it is. If you're lucky at a bar, then good for you. However most men don't get that same night satisfaction they are looking for. A phone number if they're lucky.
The internet is much the same, but you have a much higher man to woman ratio. It's much like a very crowded bar on "ladies" night. 
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| April 20, 2008, 08:09 |
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Was just curious to what others thought, it is a question for the age here and i do enjoy the Internet myself for a multitude of reasons, and not being a bar fly my self lol But did have a discussion with a couple of friends and it came up so i thought i would throw it out and see what others think. And Chazzy luv ya babe! you rock!! 
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| April 23, 2008, 03:13 |
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I think for the majority of us, the internet is a fantastic thing, I can keep in touch with family and friends, hang out in this community and all while price comparing, looking up whatever crosses my mind and researching answers to any question I may have...I can read the news, get my mood uplifted with some Foamy the Squirrel, balance the bank account and the list just goes on and on.
I do think that some think that the internet would make one night stands and NSA sex much easier...banner ads for adult sites often say sfuff like "Horny housewives will fuck you tonite" but when it comes down to it, the cyber dating world is really not that much different than the real world...after all, the same people live in both.
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| April 23, 2008, 08:32 |
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