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Liberalwife
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Why do men cheat?
Why do some men risk everything for sex? Has it to do with brain chemistry, evolution, testosterone, hormomes, risk factor or power?
Or, maybe they simply think they are invincible, and his cock is his 'brain'? 
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| March 17, 2008, 04:07 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
For all the same reasons women cheat. 
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| March 17, 2008, 05:20 |
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Liberalwife
47 / female
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Re: Re: Why do men cheat?
QUOTE (Hobscotch @ March 17, 2008, 05:20)For all the same reasons women cheat.
HaHa!! Evade the question, why don't ya! 
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| March 17, 2008, 05:23 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
Gotcha!!!
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| March 17, 2008, 05:49 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
ummmm Lib!! if you're referring to heterosexual encounters than Hobscoth is absolutely right!! (omg, i agreed with Hobscoth)..because it takes one of each gender to consummate the cheating sex act...sooooooooooo, we cheat for the same reasons and in the same degree of numbers...
there...how's that for evasive? hahaha 
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| March 17, 2008, 07:19 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
For one or the other gender to cheat there has to be something missing...I'd like to believe that it isn't only in the relationship it is within themselves. I think it is a self confidence builder, that "I got away with it" feeling, and definately a form of power. I certainly don't have all the answers but in alot of ways, cheating is a great deal less about the act of sex because that only lasts for a brief period of time, I think alot of it has to do with the thrill of the "hunt." Remember, sometimes men that cheat do not have to touch someone, it can also become emotional without them ever realizing it.
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| March 17, 2008, 07:33 |
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Re: Re: Why do men cheat?
QUOTE (Juilianna @ March 17, 2008, 07:33)For one or the other gender to cheat there has to be something missing...I'd like to believe that it isn't only in the relationship it is within themselves. I think it is a self confidence builder, that "I got away with it" feeling, and definately a form of power. I certainly don't have all the answers but in alot of ways, cheating is a great deal less about the act of sex because that only lasts for a brief period of time, I think alot of it has to do with the thrill of the "hunt." Remember, sometimes men that cheat do not have to touch someone, it can also become emotional without them ever realizing it.
good analogy Juils...i agree in part..i think often there is "something missing" either in their relationship or within themselves which motivate them to cheat...sometimes it is strictly power or the perception of it...remember the phrase..."perception is reality" thus, if someones cheats to foster the belief its power than it becomes that.
never discount the "thrill of the hunt"...it can actually be non-emotional and done just for the sake of doing it.
...and the old hormone thing still can play into this...not to mention the maturity factor....sometimes cheating is an escape to engage in creating intimacy with your mate....the lack of maturity to "work it" and dive into the relationship...which then becomes emotional for sure. Thus, becoming..."you are what you eat" or "you get out of it, what you put into it"....expecting anything different is "insane" and impractical...
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| March 17, 2008, 07:43 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
About thirty years ago, a man once told me that cheating was not the problem. Just the result of the problem. Always remembered that.
Seems reasonable?
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| March 17, 2008, 07:56 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
Mostly because they can.----
Some cheat because of stress in thier occuaption, some because thier marriages aren't going well and some because they just have no concience.
On the news the other day, it was said that AIDS has increased among the retired community because of Viagra and other "performance enhancing" meds. I assume that cheating has also increased.
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| March 17, 2008, 08:18 |
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Liberalwife
47 / female
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Re: Re: Why do men cheat?
QUOTE (TropiFun @ March 17, 2008, 07:19)ummmm Lib!! if you're referring to heterosexual encounters than Hobscoth is absolutely right!! (omg, i agreed with Hobscoth)..because it takes one of each gender to consummate the cheating sex act...sooooooooooo, we cheat for the same reasons and in the same degree of numbers...
there...how's that for evasive? hahaha
Haha yup....Evasive as well as elusive, that is so typically Tropi.....
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| March 17, 2008, 08:25 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
I think that most men do it because they are missing something at the home. Either emotional, or that feeling of being needed. A man to me wants to feel that need of being needed, otherwise he might seek out that feeling.
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| March 17, 2008, 09:59 |
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Re: Re: Why do men cheat?
QUOTE (Hobscotch @ March 17, 2008, 07:56)About thirty years ago, a man once told me that cheating was not the problem. Just the result of the problem. Always remembered that.
Seems reasonable?
Almost reasonable, I think it applies to the majority but there are men that have it all, no reason to cheat, but still will cheat.
I hate the old thinking that men are "made that way" that it is somehow all out of their power to control themselves due to biology, DNA, evolution and primal needs....bullshit!
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| March 17, 2008, 10:46 |
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Re: Re: Re: Why do men cheat?
QUOTE (Liberalwife @ March 17, 2008, 08:25) QUOTE (TropiFun @ March 17, 2008, 07:19)ummmm Lib!! if you're referring to heterosexual encounters than Hobscoth is absolutely right!! (omg, i agreed with Hobscoth)..because it takes one of each gender to consummate the cheating sex act...sooooooooooo, we cheat for the same reasons and in the same degree of numbers...
there...how's that for evasive? hahaha
Haha yup....Evasive as well as elusive, that is so typically Tropi.....
yep. that's me...the WN "spook"....agent 007! .....peter gunn....."undercover"  .....covertly overt!!!
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| March 17, 2008, 11:44 |
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Re: Why do men cheat?
There's the percentage that do it for kicks, like Chazzy says for no particular reason, then there's the few that have other reasons and understand the gravitas of it all (ooh get me with the posh words).
But yes, it is a two to tango thing... the only thing is people will always end up with people of the same mindset - players will find players, those with something missing in their lives will find the same and so on and so forth.
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| March 17, 2008, 19:30 |
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AmberZed
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South of that..., Georgia, US
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Re: Why do men cheat?
my opinion? you can't answer that question unless you define the word "cheat"...
I used to be married, but it fell apart, in part because it turned out we didn't agree on the definition of that word. When I discovered he was splitting hairs about what was cheating and what wasn't, I couldn't trust him anymore. And that was the beginning of the end.
Yeah, there's a lot more to it than that, but it's a point to consider, innit?
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| March 17, 2008, 20:11 |
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Re: Re: Why do men cheat?
QUOTE (AmberZed @ March 17, 2008, 20:11)my opinion? you can't answer that question unless you define the word "cheat"...
I used to be married, but it fell apart, in part because it turned out we didn't agree on the definition of that word. When I discovered he was splitting hairs about what was cheating and what wasn't, I couldn't trust him anymore. And that was the beginning of the end.
Yeah, there's a lot more to it than that, but it's a point to consider, innit?
that's an interesting response....of course there is the generally accepted norm for what is cheating..such as fucking someone else...but, the reality is each relationship is independent of the norm if the couple has their own generally accepted principle...very good point AmberZed...
a littl fuel to fodder and consider...hmmmmmm
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