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Physical abuse
I think it's like...1 out of every 4 women have, is, or will be physically abused by their boyfriend or husband.
Sometimes when I've somewhere I look around and see dozens of women, or hundreds of women, it's hard to know that such a large portion of them have, is or will suffer from abuse from someone they love.
Even logging in right here, and seeing the women of this community online regularly and knowing that one out of every four of us fall into this statistic...it's just too many women, way too many any way you look at it.
What about the men, I've never seen the stats that tell us how many men out of how many are, have or will be abusers?
How many men can be abusers and then be rehabilitated with "anger management"
By the way, I fall into the "has been abused" category...never again...one man after that time in my life did lift his closed fist over me and let me say this...
Never ever doodes, underestimate the pure adrenaline rage of a once abused women, cuz doodes...size and strength differences won't matter...she'll flat out kick your ass if that's the only choice you give her.
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| March 12, 2008, 13:05 |
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prettyplze1
54 / female
Licking pussyville Essex, England, UK
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Re: Physical abuse
I have defended a few woman and i have to say men who have been physically abused, the stories you hear are heart breaking. There are some real animals out there. The scary thing is, you never know what someone is like, until it's to late. Sorry to hear you have had it tough chazzy, but i'm sure it has made you a strong woman.
In my experience it is only a few who can change, but it must be hard ever to trust them or anyone again
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| March 12, 2008, 13:11 |
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funlovingpair
59 / couple
Frozen Tundra, Minnesota, US
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Re: Physical abuse
I've never figured out why this has to be. I realize that it's a power issue, but I think one would have much more power, so to speak, if you would work together and not against each other. I have no tolerance for anyone who thinks that is the thing to do. There is no reason for it, at all.
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| March 12, 2008, 17:05 |
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Re: Physical abuse
There is never EVER any excuse to submit another human being to abuse. Whether it be psychological or physical.
Men or women who abuse their partners are despicable, how can you invite someone to trust you, sometimes with their lives and break it with such force that they may never recover.
I have total contempt for these abusers. They flout the laws of human nature, damage people, and tarnish the respectability of the genuine, caring people in society.
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| March 12, 2008, 19:01 |
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Re: Physical abuse
I know that Chazzy is a very strong woman mentally and evidently from her earlier post physically. I was hit ONCE by my boyfriend when I was about sixteen. He was significantly larger than me and I was able to get into my house before he had a chance to touch me again. It was the first and LAST time I was physically abused by a man. Some of my guy friends did take it upon themselves to "discuss" the issue with him at length and I didn't feel sorry for him at all.
Mental abuse is another story...harder to detect and recognize. I'm a survivor of that too...when someone does impulsive and disrespectful and the result is that you end up hurting inside it is really no different than being slapped around. You learn to bob and weave in a different way but nonetheless, you have been beaten to hell and back emotionally. Then you just get to the point when enough is enough and you are too tough to reach.
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| March 12, 2008, 20:29 |
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Much of the time, the mental abuse is the prelude to the physical abuse...
First...the abuser crushes the self esteem over a period of time, and cuts thier target off from friends and family that have any influence over them...then the door is open for all the physical battering.
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| March 12, 2008, 23:24 |
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there is NEVER, EVER any reason for a man to hit a woman (other than love taps). that's the one thing i'm glad for, no matter how much my ex pissed me off, i never got mad enough to hit her.
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| March 12, 2008, 23:55 |
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Over all these years of mine, I've known maybe 2 women who were the type that for reasons I'll never understand would get in the face of their mate and just keep pushing while screaming at them to "Hit me! Go ahead and hit me!"...I hate violence and this is something I'll never understand but I know that this kind of thing is not the norm and I hate when I hear someone say something like ..."She must like it/get something out of it or she would leave"
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| March 13, 2008, 07:34 |
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I grew up with a father that was very physical with my mom, and I swore that I would break that cycle, and I have. But I do think that I have a way of creating emotional abuse, and I am getting help for that, because no woman deserves that. And I LOVE my wife very much, so I have to make changes.
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