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Sexless
Estimated 40 million in U.S. have " sexless marriage " (less than 10 times a year)
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That's the headline to the story I was reading this morning.
The reasons for sexless marriages were things like...medications that have a libido lowering side effect...too busy...too tired...too depressed...self body loathing....
The interesting reason for sexless marriages? Viagra!
Yep, they say men are taking Viagra, getting all revved up and roaring past the foreplay/arouse wife part...and that is screwing things up for allot of couples.
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| February 13, 2008, 07:24 |
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Re: Sexless
So many guys don't understand when their wifes medication causes this and that's when things start to go wrong. Must be hard for the woman, especially if she needs the medication. I understand it is also hard for the guy as he has needs.
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| February 13, 2008, 12:28 |
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QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ February 13, 2008, 12:28)So many guys don't understand when their wifes medication causes this and that's when things start to go wrong. Must be hard for the woman, especially if she needs the medication. I understand it is also hard for the guy as he has needs.
---or vice-versa
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| February 13, 2008, 12:58 |
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QUOTE (JCSOS @ February 13, 2008, 12:58) QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ February 13, 2008, 12:28)So many guys don't understand when their wifes medication causes this and that's when things start to go wrong. Must be hard for the woman, especially if she needs the medication. I understand it is also hard for the guy as he has needs.
---or vice-versa
Very true, it's a shame both sides in some cases aren't understanding or supportive to their partners needs or problems
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| February 13, 2008, 15:23 |
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We know this one very well. All though we are not "sexless", but it most certainly has decreased dramatically. Between all the different medications that I have to take and being so tired from work, have taken a big toll on my sex drive. The good news is that Ma is very understanding about it, and knows full well its the medication and our work situation. 
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| February 13, 2008, 20:03 |
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The percentage seemed too high, but maybe not?
When my husband and I are in a dry spell, it's usually due to two things, one is just fatigue...the other is, we aren't connecting with each other very well outside the bedroom.
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| February 13, 2008, 21:35 |
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Sex wasn't the problem in my marriage, it was the connection outside the bedroom. I have never been enough for him and that's OK because I'm happy and enough for myself.
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| February 13, 2008, 23:34 |
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Well this is a subject I could write a book about! Ok so it might be more like a comic book but atleast then I could be a super hero 
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| February 14, 2008, 19:03 |
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Hot and Balmy, England, UK
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If couples communicated with each other more, maybe just a little chat about how tired they feel, maybe there wouldnt be so many p*******d off partners!!
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| February 15, 2008, 16:06 |
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QUOTE (cjroxy @ February 15, 2008, 16:06)
My issue is very much that CJ...my issues weren't in the bedroom...and he communicates WAY to well with other women...
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| February 15, 2008, 17:44 |
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The problems I have at home are that outside the bedroom, he (deliberatly) annoys the crap outta me all day long, which leaves me soooo not in the mood, or he's in one of his helpless spells, and constantly reminding him that I'm his wife, not his mommy..also leaves me not in the mood.
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| February 15, 2008, 20:44 |
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My problem isn't 'in' the bedroom cause 'that' is sooo far out of the picture the thoughts never cross my mind - Unless I'm here of course. 
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| February 16, 2008, 08:05 |
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There are many factors involved in a sexless relationship. The one that hit my relationship was menopause - 10 years of very little sexual contact, compared to before all that. Going through it has helped me realize why so many marriages, after 20+ years resulted with separation or divorce. If I did not believed in my marriage vows, I wouldn't be here giving my "for what it's worth". Been married for 30 years now, it was 13-years ago when it happened - it took us (it's not a "her" problem)10 years to realize what was going on. Then the medication dosage, too high, or too low, takes some time too. The recovery period takes time also, rekindling the fire - it's like romancing the stone, she WAS cold (the way I was thinking) then I became cold (system-shut-down on my part). I don't have all the answers, but when you truly love someone you learn to become patient, understanding, compassionate, and give your all to make it work. We did! Still enjoying the "recovery period" which will never end.."Till Death Do Us Part!" With all the kids out of the house, it's our private playground, well, except when she's camming! The fun we are having out-weighs the bad times.
HE of MarriedCpl
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| February 16, 2008, 14:33 |
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Well, you're a good man Mr. HE! You and the wife have something unique going on, very special.
You both seem to know all about real commitment.
Too often, it's "convenient commitment" ya know, like "I love you and I'm devoted to you unless it just gets to be too much trouble or causes me too much inconvenience"
Allot of men have written and asked me what to do, their wife doesn't want sex any more and dammit they have needs.
They rarely ever have the answers to my follow up questions like ...
Has she seen a doctor or had a check up lately?
Is she currently taking any meds, herbal supplements, recreational drugs?
How many children do you have? Is she working outside the home and could it be she is just exhausted?
Is she at an age that she could be experiencing any hormonal imbalances like pre-menopause or menopause?
All kinds of questions, and all they can usually tell me is that they ain't gettin' enough...
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