|
| AUTHOR |
MESSAGE |
|
Mooant
41 / male
New Britain, Connecticut, US
|
Being stood up...
It sucks!!!
Anyone want to share some stories to make me feel better?
|
| February 11, 2008, 22:44 |
|
slowpoke2
52 / male
aberdeen, Scotland, UK
|
Re: Being stood up...
it happens to us all friend
|
| February 11, 2008, 22:48 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Being stood up...
Anyone that would stand you up Mooant, isn't worth your time...You're an exceptional person, I've felt that about you since the first moment you joined.
Forget about it, you're a quality person who deserves the same.
Yes, I was stood up once...I was so mad and hurt, I was mad and cursed him awful....and then found out the guy had a pretty bad car wreck on the way to our date...So...that made me feel like total crap and I decided from that time on to always give the benefit of the doubt, assume nothing, and if I must make assumptions, I'll assume the no show was for a very good reason, or I made a date with a very bad, rude person and if that's the case I'm better off. Hell, I bet we've all got more horror stories about the dates that DID show up, than one that didn't!!
|
| February 11, 2008, 23:03 |
|
Mooant
41 / male
New Britain, Connecticut, US
|
Re: Being stood up...
Thanks Chazzy and Slowpoke. It just hurts not being able to connect with someone after so long and after my wife left me for no reason. And of course being stood up means I have no reason why we didn't get together . It just makes me wonder whats wrong with me.
|
| February 11, 2008, 23:06 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Being stood up...
There is nothing wrong with you.
There's nothing wrong with me either, but just a knack for choosing the wrong mates, somehow being blind to the red flags that should signal my sprint in the opposite direction...I've worked pretty hard at looking really hard at myself and figured out things...not bad things about myself but the things that make me not only tolerate bad things in others, but even what makes me allow myself to get involved with those that reguire so much tolerance and patience.
There are those out there who would appreciate our good qualities and others only exploit them.
|
| February 11, 2008, 23:14 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Re: Being stood up...
QUOTE (Mooant @ February 11, 2008, 23:06)Thanks Chazzy and Slowpoke. It just hurts not being able to connect with someone after so long and after my wife left me for no reason. And of course being stood up means I have no reason why we didn't get together . It just makes me wonder whats wrong with me.
Hey, nothing wrong with you, you're young and have a lot of dating fun ahead of you. Learn from everything you experiance, the old addage "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" works, I'm sort of in the same boat as you so I can relate. Talk to every woman you meet just for the practice, go out on as many dates as you can. You will be okay. Don't go out looking for the love of your life, have fun and she will find you.
|
| February 12, 2008, 00:04 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Re: Being stood up...
QUOTE (Mooant @ February 11, 2008, 23:06)Thanks Chazzy and Slowpoke. It just hurts not being able to connect with someone after so long and after my wife left me for no reason. And of course being stood up means I have no reason why we didn't get together . It just makes me wonder whats wrong with me.
The thing is Mooant that I've figured out over the years is that it doesn't matter how hard I try, if the other person is broken or impulsive I can't fix them. If this person stood you up it has more to do with their lack of consideration, lack of kindness, or appropriate behavior. If they stood you up without so much as a phone call then they are to blame and in my opinion you dodged a bullet. This is a sign that she isn't right for you. The thing is you want someone that is into you, someone that shows up, patience is important in dating.
You have to continue to get up to bat to have a good RBI record so just continue to get up there and do it. You are a great guy and remember, the broken person isn't the one that gets stood up, it is the one that doesn't bother to show.
|
| February 12, 2008, 03:40 |
|
savageone
54 / female
chicago, Illinois, US
|
Re: Being stood up...
You should not think it was your fault why she stood you up. Maybe she chicken out and did not have anything to do with you at all. Some women are that way . I know once I canceled a date because I was scared to meet someone I had only talked to on the phone. It had nothing to do with the guy at all . Now I wonder what i might of missed out on you know what i mean .I learned not to put blame on myself when I got stood up once before but it did bother me at first then I realized it wasn't me at all. He just had second thoughts about meeting me and later on I was glad he was a no show .  
|
| February 12, 2008, 10:10 |
|
dave2big
81 / male
somewhere, Nebraska, US
|
Re: Being stood up...
just a thought ,mostly to the ladies,wouldnt it be a good idea that before you go out on a "real" date you both agreed to meet somewhere public just for coffee and check each other out ? this has worked for me in the past and i cant understand why more people dont try it ............. 
|
| February 12, 2008, 14:18 |
|
Mooant
41 / male
New Britain, Connecticut, US
|
Re: Re: Being stood up...
QUOTE (dave2big @ February 12, 2008, 14:18)just a thought ,mostly to the ladies,wouldnt it be a good idea that before you go out on a "real" date you both agreed to meet somewhere public just for coffee and check each other out ? this has worked for me in the past and i cant understand why more people dont try it .............
That was kind our plan, but because she lived so far away, I asked her to call me when she was getting ready to meet so I didn't drive an hour to wait around forever. I'm kinda glad I did that because she didn't call that day at all.
She did call the next day, but I was at work so I couldn't pick up at the time. And of course she didn't pick up when I called her after work, so I still have no explanation or expectation of and explanation.
|
| February 12, 2008, 18:33 |
|
User no longer registered.
|
Re: Being stood up...
Well...it all could just be a loose weave of misunderstanding, miss-communication, and miss read signals...
It could all still work out
|
| February 12, 2008, 20:20 |
|
|
