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Time to move.........
My dear friend Michelle (divorced) is having a crisis. She told me the other day that while driving to her condo (500 ft from her ex's condo) she witnessed through his picture window, her ex dancing with his girlfriend (Michelle's ex-best friend). She got all po'd and vented to her boyfriend about what she saw. Her boyfriend told her to sell her damn condo and move the f*ck out of there, asap! I told her the same damn thing.
Any women here think I am over-stepping my bounds by giving her that advice? I know she has second thoughts about divorcing him in the first place after 31 years.
What else can I say to her? 
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| February 3, 2008, 04:53 |
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Re: Time to move.........
Ah Michelle!
She does need to get away from that whole "ex husband/ex best friend" thing...but..here's the thing...
When some people experience that much pure drama in their lives, they can get kinda stuck in it, kinda like being addicted to the drama.
She may be stuck at a point where she just needs to need help, and not so willing to be helped.
I know, sounds weird but it does happen to otherwise sane smart people.They don't really want help, they just want the attention of needing help.
She needed a friend to listen, and shoulder to cry on at one time, but she should be so far past that point by now.
That usually means a little tougher love from friends and her friends may need to just flat and bluntly tell her they are sick of hearing about it, sick of her bitching about something that is so way in her past now and she needs to do whatever it takes to bury that past because they don't want to hear about it anymore.
If there is no audience anymore, the performer will climb down off the stage....
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| February 3, 2008, 08:38 |
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Re: Time to move.........
If she finds it hard seeing him and her ex friend, then she needs to move, it will help her forget him and move on to a better/happier life.
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| February 3, 2008, 10:09 |
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Re: Re: Time to move.........
QUOTE (hotbubblegum @ February 3, 2008, 10:09)If she finds it hard seeing him and her ex friend, then she needs to move, it will help her forget him and move on to a better/happier life.
Exactly! Her boyfriend, immediately upon hearing her cry about that "vision", declared to her that "it's time to freakin' move"!! They proceeded to go house hunting just to get her mind off what's troubling her. Finding a new place is a work in progress. My guess is she will be v-e-r-y slow in moving on!!!
My thinking is she is not as po'd at her ex-girlfriend as she's still carrying a torch for her ex!! I love the woman but if she lays that sh*t on me, I'll give her the what for....big time!! She says she's so extremely mad at her ex-girlfriend that she can't see straight. 
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| February 3, 2008, 13:06 |
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Hun there is only so much you can do to help her get through this tough time, she has to be strong enough to say enoughs enough and move on with her life.
She is lucky to have a great friend like you.
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| February 3, 2008, 13:25 |
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She has been going through this tough time for way too long now, she already has a boyfriend....she's milking it.
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| February 3, 2008, 15:57 |
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So, why should she have to move because she saw something that "hit" her the wrong way. Tell her to grow up and deal with it!!! Shees.
You admitted that she's having "second thoughts" about her divorce from this man. Well, too late!!
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| February 3, 2008, 18:57 |
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QUOTE (JCSOS @ February 3, 2008, 18:57)So, why should she have to move because she saw something that "hit" her the wrong way. Tell her to grow up and deal with it!!! Shees.
You admitted that she's having "second thoughts" about her divorce from this man. Well, too late!!
Especiially since she has a boyfriend.
I'm thinkin' the question here is who cheated on who to cause the divorce and it goes from there.
Yup this is the same advice I've given a female friends.
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