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Looking for someone local
The most intriguing fish in the pond is the married woman. I ask myself what it is that she is actually looking for.
If it a married man there is the assumption, and sometimes their profile will be open enough to say, that they are looking for sex.
The married woman on the other hand is not usually so forthcoming with her desires or intent. There are a few that say that they are looking for a mind-blowing sexual encounter but these are rare and in my experience they are more interested in the attention that they receive by what they have written as opposed to having any serious thoughts about it.
My assumption is, and would appreciate any input to the contrary, that the married woman is seeking what she is missing from her present relationship. She is looking for an escape from the life that she is leading. She may have a partner that doesn’t listen, one that takes her for granted, one that is controlling or abusive or she might be so lucky to have a partner that loves her dearly but she finds her life to be excruciatingly dull. Whatever the reason she finds herself being drawn outside of her present relationship to see what is out there.
What she finds is a stable of men willing to assist her with her. While the attention may be pleasant at first, having men making her the centre of attention, in the long run it may be realized that this approach is very superficial. If the attention givers are not suitably rewarded for their endeavors they fade away.
It is the assumption of many of these men that a woman that is disillusioned with her relationship is missing something. They assume that what is missing is sex and they are willing to step up and assist the damsel in distress. While their assumption may be true, it is in most cases a lack of intimacy on the whole.
The emotional integrity of her relationship has been compromised and with it the intimacy that once existed.
I hear women say all the time that they have no reason to look for sex; they can get it any time. If a married woman was just looking for sex, then why would one spend so much time on-line looking for something that might be as close as the guy that lives next door?
The reason as I see it is that there is a greater desire under the surface and that is to find a man that is interested in her as a person. One that has a desire to listen, one that has no reason to take her for granted, no reason to try and control her and because they do not have the makings of a traditional relationship, it is less apt to get boring.
While some men can form an entire relationship on the physical aspects, women tend to relate on a more emotional level first. If there is an emotional connection, then they are more apt to get involved on a physical level.
There is not a great difference between a single or married woman in what she is seeking. The single woman is looking for someone that she can form a relationship with. The married woman is seeking to form a relationship with someone.
The only difference is that the single woman has the ability to make a commitment on paper and the married woman already has made this commitment to someone else.
Typically I find that the single women that I have met have a preconceived notion as to what they want and are very, very possessive. I have had so many read into conversations that I may have had with them something more than I have actually stated. Within a short period of time they want to know everything I’m doing, where I’m going, why I’m going...and the list goes on. In a nutshell, they take a considerable amount of time to converse with. The conversation goes from depth of learning about a person to what comes across to me as a desire to subtly control me.
I do not want to be controlled. I don’t even want to think that someone may be trying to do that. I set my own personal parameters; they are most assuredly not being set by someone that I have met on-line and never in person.
I am in an interesting position for the first time in my life:
I have the freedom to make decisions without another person trying to dissuade me to think otherwise.
I do not have to tell anyone what I am doing, feeling or thinking unless I want to.
I have no lack of willing single sexual partners. If one does not have this advantage then they tend to elevate its importance and it becomes one of, or their only, goal. I choose not to partake as it may be misconstrued as being more than that.
This freedom is very important to me. I am in a state of personal growth and repair at present, and am best to figure out my answers on my own.
This brings me to the married woman. While many of my male competitor’s in the dating arena are so sure that she is looking for sex alone, my thoughts are that there is something far more substantial. If I am thinking in the right direction and she has some synergy in these thoughts, I may have a chance to meet someone with whom a relationship of sorts could be formed. She already has parameters in place that prevent her from becoming unreasonable about her expectations, she is married. I do not have the time for the drama of dating single women.
In browsing the profiles I see the same attributes are desired by both single and married women alike; Honesty, no head-games, respect.
If a married person is on here seeking something outside of their present relationship, where is the honesty? Are they not the perpetrator of the head-game? Why should they be respected?
I think sometimes the married woman is setting herself up. She writes one thing but is in fact another. She is seeking integrity but in fact she is a cheater.
My point in this is that it doesn’t matter to me. I feel that the married but looking woman is seeking emotional integrity and intimacy.
This is the same thing that I am looking for. If you truly desire a committed, honest, respectful relationship outside of your present one, be honest with yourself and talk to me.
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About Me
LOOKING FOR: One Night Stand, Erotic Chat/E-Mail, Discreet Relationship, Swinging Couple or Partner, 1-on-1 Sex, Casual Encounters, Bondage & Discipline, Long Term Relationship, Other or Special Interest
LOCATION:
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
GENDER: Man
AGE: 60
SEEKING: Women, Couples
BODY TYPE: Average
HEIGHT: 5' 10" (178 cm)
WEIGHT: 198 Lbs. (90 Kg.)
HAIR COLOR: Brown
RACE: Caucasian
PROFILE: The most intriguing fish in the pond is the married woman. I ask myself what it is that she is actually looking for.
If it a married man there is the assumption, and sometimes their profile will be open enough to say, that they are looking for sex.
The married woman on the other hand is not usually so forthcoming with her desires or intent. There are a few that say that they are looking for a mind-blowing sexual encounter but these are rare and in my experience they are more interested in the attention that they receive by what they have written as opposed to having any serious thoughts about it.
My assumption is, and would appreciate any input to the contrary, that the married woman is seeking what she is missing from her present relationship. She is looking for an escape from the life that she is leading. She may have a partner that doesn’t listen, one that takes her for granted, one that is controlling or abusive or she might be so lucky to have a partner that loves her dearly but she finds her life to be excruciatingly dull. Whatever the reason she finds herself being drawn outside of her present relationship to see what is out there.
What she finds is a stable of men willing to assist her with her. While the attention may be pleasant at first, having men making her the centre of attention, in the long run it may be realized that this approach is very superficial. If the attention givers are not suitably rewarded for their endeavors they fade away.
It is the assumption of many of these men that a woman that is disillusioned with her relationship is missing something. They assume that what is missing is sex and they are willing to step up and assist the damsel in distress. While their assumption may be true, it is in most cases a lack of intimacy on the whole.
The emotional integrity of her relationship has been compromised and with it the intimacy that once existed.
I hear women say all the time that they have no reason to look for sex; they can get it any time. If a married woman was just looking for sex, then why would one spend so much time on-line looking for something that might be as close as the guy that lives next door?
The reason as I see it is that there is a greater desire under the surface and that is to find a man that is interested in her as a person. One that has a desire to listen, one that has no reason to take her for granted, no reason to try and control her and because they do not have the makings of a traditional relationship, it is less apt to get boring.
While some men can form an entire relationship on the physical aspects, women tend to relate on a more emotional level first. If there is an emotional connection, then they are more apt to get involved on a physical level.
There is not a great difference between a single or married woman in what she is seeking. The single woman is looking for someone that she can form a relationship with. The married woman is seeking to form a relationship with someone.
The only difference is that the single woman has the ability to make a commitment on paper and the married woman already has made this commitment to someone else.
Typically I find that the single women that I have met have a preconceived notion as to what they want and are very, very possessive. I have had so many read into conversations that I may have had with them something more than I have actually stated. Within a short period of time they want to know everything I’m doing, where I’m going, why I’m going...and the list goes on. In a nutshell, they take a considerable amount of time to converse with. The conversation goes from depth of learning about a person to what comes across to me as a desire to subtly control me.
I do not want to be controlled. I don’t even want to think that someone may be trying to do that. I set my own personal parameters; they are most assuredly not being set by someone that I have met on-line and never in person.
I am in an interesting position for the first time in my life:
I have the freedom to make decisions without another person trying to dissuade me to think otherwise.
I do not have to tell anyone what I am doing, feeling or thinking unless I want to.
I have no lack of willing single sexual partners. If one does not have this advantage then they tend to elevate its importance and it becomes one of, or their only, goal. I choose not to partake as it may be misconstrued as being more than that.
This freedom is very important to me. I am in a state of personal growth and repair at present, and am best to figure out my answers on my own.
This brings me to the married woman. While many of my male competitor’s in the dating arena are so sure that she is looking for sex alone, my thoughts are that there is something far more substantial. If I am thinking in the right direction and she has some synergy in these thoughts, I may have a chance to meet someone with whom a relationship of sorts could be formed. She already has parameters in place that prevent her from becoming unreasonable about her expectations, she is married. I do not have the time for the drama of dating single women.
In browsing the profiles I see the same attributes are desired by both single and married women alike; Honesty, no head-games, respect.
If a married person is on here seeking something outside of their present relationship, where is the honesty? Are they not the perpetrator of the head-game? Why should they be respected?
I think sometimes the married woman is setting herself up. She writes one thing but is in fact another. She is seeking integrity but in fact she is a cheater.
My point in this is that it doesn’t matter to me. I feel that the married but looking woman is seeking emotional integrity and intimacy.
This is the same thing that I am looking for. If you truly desire a committed, honest, respectful relationship outside of your present one, be honest with yourself and talk to me.
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